“We have two ears and one mouth, an equation that is easy to forget.”  Peter O’Connell

The complete quote, by the Greek philosopher, Epictetus is “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.”

My father was a good listener, a skill he learned from his own father. Peter felt uncomfortable around people who sought to distinguish themselves at the expense of others and he abhorred what he referred to as ‘buffoons and poseurs’.

My paternal grandfather, who lived with us until he died, was a shy man who had been profoundly shell-shocked during WWI. His experiences at the Somme were too painful for him to share with others. Instead, Harry asked questions. And he listened to the answers. He listened with genuine interest and with his full attention. This, perhaps more than any other quality, contributed to his popularity across the generations.

“There was an owl who lived in an oak. The more he heard, the less he spoke. The less he spoke, the more he heard. Oh if men were all like that wise old bird.”

My father liked this poem and often quoted it. It always sounded a bit preachy to me, a veiled implication that perhaps I should be doing a better job of listening to others.

In 1959, my parents founded The School of English Studies, Folkestone and, for the next 40 years, Peter pursued ideas that he hoped would help his students not only learn English but also improve their social skills. Not all his teachers were on board with these novel ideas and there were intermittent rumblings in the staff room about ‘brainwashing’ and how ‘teaching English shouldn’t concern itself with altering personality’.

In 1969, the wonderfully named, Norman Castles, arrived at SES. One of Norman’s projects was to arrange a series of interviews to be conducted by advanced students with local people in their own homes. As a retired congregational minister he had an impressive bank of prospective interviewees ranging from a Q-Boat commander, who had served in WWI, to a retired bank manager with a passion for folklore.

Norman arranged the initial interview and then equipped the student with a cassette recorder, a table microphone, a folder and sheets of paper. He would offer advice on etiquette and students were encouraged to ask thoughtful and thought-provoking questions, such as: What qualities do you think are needed to be a good bank manager?. What class do you consider your parents belonged to?.

Norman taught his students how to sustain an interview over a two hour period, how to listen for cues and details and how to politely draw the speaker back if he wandered off topic. It was a lesson both in understanding and in making oneself understood.

After the interview Norman would help, if required, with writing a letter of thanks. The complete interview would then be transcribed from the tape and the finished folder donated to the SES student library.

For my father the real value of the exercise lay in teaching people to be good listeners whilst improving their English in an authentic situation.

Peter ran classes on the Technique of Conversation and would model the importance of posture, gesture, facial expression, emphatic communion and non-verbal communication. He also wrote a paper titled More Learning – Less Teaching in which he discussed the difference between teaching and learning and hearing and listening.

At mealtimes, he would coach the au pairs in what he referred to as social ping pong. ‘Did you have a good morning, Elisabeth?’ to which the correct response was ‘Yes, thank you Mr. O’Connell, did you?’

I later developed some of Peter’s ideas in my own classroom teaching. I worked with primary school children and would run workshops for Year 6s preparing to move to secondary school. One of the things we talked about was how to be a good listener.

I would ask the children to draw up a list of ‘Dos and Donts’ and I was always impressed by their imagination and sensitivity: ‘Keep good eye contact/listen carefully/don’t be distracted/don’t interrupt/don’t get too physically close/ask questions/don’t talk about things that the person might not be interested in/make comments to show that you are listening/be encouraging.’

We practiced moving around the room and greeting each other silently. We imagined whole conversations without words, which is a good way of exploring body language.

We played the Silence Game – one child listened to another for 15 seconds, without interrupting, and then reported back what they had heard the person say. We also discussed different ways of starting and ending a conversation and how to join a conversation as a late arrival to the group.

We learned that when you listen to another person it’s important to silence yourself and pay settled attention, with no agenda or intention.

The skill of listening is largely neglected in our classrooms, perhaps because it is rather difficult to observe or control. We live in an era that is absorbed by individual psychology and yet the future of the world depends on skilled listeners. Good listening is closely allied to concentration, a valuable asset at any age.

Educational psychologist, Herman Hall, once made the observation that “Human attention is one of the most powerful forces on earth. Being listened to is sometimes indistinguishable from being loved.”

American Photographs is an exhibition currently showing at the Victoria and Albert Museum in London. It borrows its title from Walker Evans’ book of photographs, published in 1938.

“Stare, pry, listen, eavesdrop. Die knowing something. You are not here long.”                                                                  Walker Evans

In 1980 I was a student in Paris. It was a year of protests, strikes and demonstrations at universities, including the Sorbonne. After a couple of months I decided to use this as an excuse to stop attending lectures and study on my own. I read a lot. I spent hours walking around the city. I went to museums, exhibitions and plays.

I remember buying a postcard from a bookseller by the Seine – a sepia photograph of a cobblestone courtyard surrounded by flaking buildings and peeling wooden shutters. The photographer was Eugene Atget and everything about the picture coincided in my imagination with the 19^th century French novels I was reading.

Later, I discovered the photographs of Henri Cartier Bresson, Walker Evans and Robert Frank. According to my diary, on February 16^th 1981, I went to two exhibitions dedicated to Walker Evans. Both were in small galleries – one featured the most famous of his photographs, the Alabama sharecroppers during the Great Depression and the other, titled New York between the Wars, was a collection of street scenes and anonymous subway riders.

The work of Robert Frank and Walker Evans spoke to my fascination with America and I was drawn to their images of ordinary people captured in unguarded moments. The black and white photographs were unfiltered and emotionally raw, reflecting a complexity of life in the United States that I was anxious to discover for myself.

In the spring of 1984, with savings of $900, I left London on a one-way ticket to New York. I flew People Express, the airline that operated like a bus service. You paid the fare in cash from your seat. In Newark I was granted a six month visa and with that, I was ready for the Promised Land.

I travelled on Greyhound buses, staying in cheap motels and visiting Civil War battlefields and the homes of former presidents. People were friendly, although puzzled by the fact that I was travelling without a car.

Old family friends, both artists, had invited me to spend Memorial Day weekend in Maine. Getting to Cranberry Island involved two flights, a drive, a boat-ride and a flat-bed pick-up truck. Final access to the house, which stood on a point, required stumbling across a pebbly beach at midnight.

Cranberry Island is a beautiful, magical place. Just two miles long and one mile wide, the island is rich in birds, hills, woods and water. In the 1980s, there were just 40 year-round residents, most of them artists and fishermen. We visited Mark, a painter who had studied in Paris in the 1940s when Picasso and Leger were living there.

At a dinner of neighbours one evening I met Isabelle Storey, a vivacious and attractive woman. Born and raised in Switzerland, she and her husband, a photographer, left Zurich in 1958. Soon after they arrived in New York, Isabelle was introduced to Walker Evans. Within a matter of weeks she had left her husband and told Walker that she wanted to marry him, which she did in 1960. She was twenty-seven. He was thirty years her senior.

In 1970 she left him too and shortly afterwards married Jim Storey, a successful lawyer with an active and well-connected social life. The couple lived in Boston and summered on Cranberry Island.

Isabelle’s stories of her early relationship with Walker sounded challenging and I wondered what had motivated her to go through with the marriage. He was brilliant and compelling, she replied.

She told me about another unhappy love affair that had recently occurred on Cranberry Island between a local boy and a girl from a wealthy Boston family. When the young woman ended the relationship, the abandoned lover was so distraught that he bulldozed her family home into the sea.

Walker Evans died in 1975. Isabelle Storey Evans returned to her homeland in 2022, where she died two years later at the age of 91.

*“The eye should learn to listen before it looks.”   Robert Frank

Eugene Atget   born, Paris  1857 – 1927

Walker Evans   born, St. Louis  1903 – 1975

Henri Cartier-Bresson  born, Chanteloup-en-Brie   1908 – 2004

Robert Frank    born, Zurich  1924 – 2019

American Photographs is at the Victoria and Albert Museum until May, 2027

Our granddaughter has recently learnt to say ‘Hi’ and ‘Bye’, sounds that are accompanied by an outstretched arm and a small wave. As any parent remembers and any grandparent knows, it is a captivating and charming development in the life of an infant.

Lia is generous and inclusive with her salutations. She greets the lady sweeping leaves, the grandfather feeding ducks, the delivery man running with his parcels. Sometimes the person smiles and waves back. A brief respite. A moment of connection.

In Salinger’s novel, A Catcher in the Rye, Holden Caulfield feels responsible for all the little children playing in a field of rye. “Thousands of little kids, and nobody’s around – nobody big, I mean – except me.”

He imagines having to catch the children before they all go over a cliff. His sister, Phoebe explains that he’s misremembered the words from the Robert Burns poem. She tells him that it’s “meet” not “catch”.

Lia has taught me something important. She has taught me how to greet those I meet in a field of rye. She has taught me to smile at strangers, not all strangers, but the kind I am prone to overly-analyse – the man with the growling wolf tattoo on his upper arm, the woman with the too-short skirt or the too much lip-filler. Before my brain clicks into its well-worn groove, I try and catch myself. I smile. And when I do, I think of Lia.

Holden’s right. Those who are ‘big’ have a responsibility to guard and protect those who are ‘little’. But those of us who are big have also been provided with opportunities to witness the innocence, the single-pointed attention and the wonder of those who are still little.

Lia has taught me the value of smiling at strangers.

Reference:
“Gin a body meet a body, comin thro’ the rye, Gin a body kiss a body, need a body cry.”
from ‘Comin thro’ the Rye’ by Robert Burns, 1782

2021/2026

“Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask and he’ll tell you the truth.”                                               Oscar Wilde

In 1981, my final year at university, I took a course in Greek Tragedy. In November of that year, Aeschylus’ trilogy The Oresteia opened at the National Theatre in London. The five-hour production was performed on a bare stage, by an all-male cast in full masks. The play was scheduled for a limited run but became the unexpected hit of the season and twenty performances became sixty-one.

The following year the company was invited to Epidaurus, where The Oresteia became the first non-Greek language production of a Greek play ever to be performed in the ancient amphitheatre.

Director, Peter Hall, first began work on The Oresteia in 1974 and auditions were open to anyone willing to give it a try. “Odd things happen when an actor puts on a mask,” Hall explained. “You become it and must go with it.”

Future cast member, Peter Dawson, for example, chose a female mask. When a fellow actor handed him an ashtray and said “These are the ashes of your dead children”, Dawson found himself weeping uncontrollably inside the mask.

Greek tragedy focuses on elemental human struggles – vengeance, betrayal, love for one’s children, loyalty, obligation and justice. Masks give voice and shape to feelings too powerful for the human face. If an actor emotes inside the mask, he begins to shake. It is the mask and the formality of the verse that contains and disciplines. An actor’s job is to tell the story and generate emotions in the audience.

The actors were not only denied the use of their own faces, they had to speak directly to the audience. No character in the play ever looked at or touched another.

The Oresteia, together with a six-hour staging of Philip Pullmans’ His Dark Materials, also performed at the National Theatre, are unquestionably the highlights of my theatre experience. My daughters were 12 and 14 when I took them to see His Dark Materials. When the final curtain came down, the younger one said: “I could see that all over again.”

My own reaction to the end of The Oresteia took me by surprise. I was completely absorbed by the action on stage – the masks, which were both expressive and oddly ambiguous, the bare stage, the strange verse and the rhythmically complex music – a combination of percussion, woodwind and harp. It was compelling and I was hypnotised, almost from the beginning.

Then, suddenly, it was all over. The house lights came on and the actors lined up on stage. Too quickly, the spell was broken. In one synchronised move, the characters pulled off their masks to reveal sixteen sweaty, bearded, twentieth century faces.

I felt so strongly about it that I wrote a letter to Peter Hall. He wrote back. “I’m sorry we spoilt the end for you by the removal of the masks. This is an interesting point and I shall certainly raise it with the cast when I next see them.”

Twenty years later I was working in a primary school where I ran lunch clubs for children who were struggling, academically and socially. I explained to a group of ten-year olds that in ancient Greek theatre the actors wore masks so the audience couldn’t see their sadness, anger, worry and fear.

We talked about how faces can deceive. Someone may smile at you but the kindly expression doesn’t feel true. Instead of feeling happy and safe around the smiling person, you might feel threatened and anxious.

I brought in some white, full-face masks and gave one to each child. I encouraged them to paint the masks to make them their own. If someone grew frustrated or was finding it hard to say something difficult or painful, I suggested they hold up the mask and speak from behind it.

Similar to the cast of The Oresteia, the children were given the opportunity to tell, not feel. They knew, from their daily lives, what it felt like to be angry, resentful and unhappy.  Speaking through the mask provided them with an opportunity to generate those emotions in the listener.

“Masks are like magnifying glasses”, said Peter Hall “they concentrate the mind.”

Reference:

The Oresteia by Aeschylus, in a version by Tony Harrison, directed by Peter Hall. National Theatre, opening night 28 November, 1981

The Oresteia at Epidaurus

In Search of Greek Theatre: The Oresteia (1981)

I grew up on a diet of 1950s America. Following my father’s return from five years teaching in the US, he remained forever homesick for his adopted country. He would gladly have lived out his days in America where life, he said, was both more gracious and more fun than it was in England.

Occasionally, after a Saturday afternoon soccer game, Mr. O’Connell would take his students for a frappe, a float or an apple pie a la mode at Howard Johnson. This particular story fascinated and frustrated me in equal measure. We had a Wimpy in Folkestone that served Knickerbocker Glories in tall, fluted glasses. Dad never thought to take me there.

Eventually, when I was 12, we went on a family holiday to America. We stayed at a Howard Johnson motel in Pennsylvania where I tasted my first onion rings followed by ice cream which came in 28 different flavours.

One of my father’s students in 1952 was thirteen year-old Douglas Van Dyck Brown, who later returned to the school as a teacher and archivist. Doug retired in 2021, the longest serving member of staff in Groton School’s one hundred and thirty-seven-year history. In 2024, he and I collaborated on writing his memoir.

Doug has eaten breakfast at Tiny’s diner in Ayer, Massachusetts since 1979. He goes there six days a week. On Mondays, when Tiny’s is closed, he drives to the Airport Diner in Shirley for his bacon, egg and pancakes.

Tiny’s opened in 1958 as a donut shop. It has always been a family business, run initially by Anna and Alfred Mauro. Anna was very short, hence the name of the diner. Bill, the Mauros’ son, started working at Tiny’s after he graduated from college in 1972 and took over when his father died in 1982. Today, Bill’s children and grandchildren work in the restaurant.

The first time Doug and I went to Tiny’s together he explained that he never sits in a four-person booth. “I’m generally on my own and so I sit at the counter. I like to be opposite the kitchen where I can catch the waitress’s attention if I need more coffee or the check. There used to be a clock on the wall, so I could watch the time. Before I retired, going to Tiny’s for 45 minutes every day gave me the space and time I needed before school started.”

Doug introduced me to Norman, who, much to my astonishment, has been a Tiny’s customer for even longer than Doug. Norman remembered when the place was the Clam Shack and, before that, the Donut Treat.

During my visits to Groton that year, I quite often went to Tiny’s for supper as well as breakfast. The food is all home-cooked – from the tender and lightly-battered scallops served with coleslaw to the crispy onion rings. The portions are enormous and I would bag up the leftovers and take them back to my apartment for the following day. This also left room for an ice cream sundae at Johnson’s Dairy Bar on the way home.

You can’t find a proper American-style diner in England. Franchises like Five Guys replicate the space but they fail to capture the essence of the American diner experience.

When our nieces and nephews visit from Boston and Chicago, they ask to go to ‘a real English pub’, one with a fireplace, low beams and locally-brewed ale. In return, they will go out of their way to find me a Dairy Queen in America because, as everyone knows, DQ has been making the best root beer floats since 1940.

The Man in the Blue-Striped Shirt by Una Suseli O’Connell

published 2024   reprinted 2025

The playwright Peter Shaffer once made the observation that tragedy is not a conflict between right and wrong, but a conflict between two different kinds of right.

The world is a noisy place and opinions about what’s right and who’s wrong are growing louder.

In these early days of 2026, listening thoughtfully and integrating intentionally has suddenly become a lot more difficult. The people I normally turn to for clarification or relief – op ed journalists like Jonathan Freedland or American comedians like Jimmy Kimmel – are themselves struggling to understand what’s going on. How can they explain the world to us in a way that makes any sense?

I was born in 1959, too young to comprehend the cause and effects of WWII or to have a clear understanding of the Civil Rights Movement. I did know, however, that there were certain people my parents respected and admired, men (and they were mainly men) who spoke unflinchingly and with integrity about God, man and meaning.  They were the public philosophers and theologians of the 20^th century: men like C.S. Lewis, Martin Luther King Jr. and Reinhold Niebuhr.

In the 1930s, Niebuhr, then a pastor in a New England village, wrote a prayer.

“Father, give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what cannot be helped, and the insight to know the one from the other.”

The Serenity Prayer was included in the prayer book given to American soldiers on the front lines during WWII and later adopted by Alcoholics Anonymous.

Reinhold Niebuhr was born in Missouri in 1892, the son of a German pastor. He received his degree from Yale Divinity School and was subsequently sent to Bethel Church in Detroit, where he became an outspoken critic of Henry Ford in the days before labour was protected by unions. His congregation (which swelled from 18 families to 600 during the 13 years he was there), consisted of those in management positions at the Ford plant as well as assembly line workers. “An industrial overlord” said Niebuhr, “will not share power with his workers until he is forced to do so by tremendous pressure”. As individuals, he knew his affluent congregation to be good, concerned and altruistic people and yet as a group they appeared selfish and self-interested.

Niebuhr saw religion as a real world issue, not confined to those who attended church or worked in academia. He sought institutional change over the salvation of the individual. He spoke out against President Nixon for his misuse of religion to bless his politics and he expressed regret at President Kennedy’s promiscuity and the thinness of his moral fibre. “By their fruits shall ye know them” he said “and the relevant fruits are charity, proportion and justice.”

Niebuhr often expressed weariness at what he described as the stale debate of atheism versus faith.

“It’s as difficult to get charity out of piety as to get reasonableness out of rationalism. Nothing worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime, therefore we must be saved by hope. Nothing true or beautiful or good makes complete sense in our immediate context of history, therefore we must be saved by faith. Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone, therefore we are saved by love.”

In 1952, my father was teaching at a boys’ boarding school in Massachusetts where Christopher, Reinhold’s son, was his advisee. At the end of the year, Reinhold Niebuhr gave Peter a copy of his book The Irony of American History. In writing to thank him, he took the opportunity to ask Niebuhr for advice on how to manage his own religious conflict. This is the reply he received:

“Dear Mr. O’Connell,

I deeply appreciate your letter if for no other reason than it gives me an opportunity to thank you for your great kindness and help to Christopher. I meant my copy of the book to be a token of my gratitude but it is a poor token indeed.

I find as a matter of fact that parents are so deeply indebted to teachers who take an interest in their children that there is no adequate way of expressing gratitude. What you and the School have done for Christopher is of inestimable value to him, and we can never be too grateful.

Perhaps I will have time in June to talk with you about the issues which you raise in your letter, because they have concerned me all of my life, but I have reached rather different conclusions than you have reached.

I believe, for instance, that in a world where, as Pascal said, justice must be enforced by power, the voluntary abnegation of power by a few Christians is not as valuable as the wielding of power “with fear and trembling” in the way that every business man and every Government official must wield it.

Whether on the question of powerlessness or poverty it seems to me that the Christian has to choose between the Monastic-perfectionist principle of goodness and an essentially Protestant one. According to the one he seeks to free himself from the evils of the world but he does not seriously affect the struggle in the world for a tolerable justice and brotherhood.

According to the other, he never escapes guilt because he is involved in all the various forms of guilt in the social life of man, but he regards this as a concomitant of “an ethic of responsibility” in contrast to “an ethic of perfection”.

I know this is a very sketchy way of stating a very ultimate problem with which I have been wrestling, as it were, all my life.

Sincerely yours,

R Niebuhr”

Reinhold Niebuhr was a nuanced, thoughtful and passionate thinker, willing to risk popularity for the sake of integrity. People paid attention to him because he didn’t speak  out of self-interest but from a larger, human perspective. This made him trustworthy. Despite being on an FBI watch list, the US State Department invited Niebuhr to help shape government policy during the Cold War.

In this time, in our time, we are in profound need of Niebuhrs, Tillichs, Lewises and Kings.

Reinhold Niebuhr   June 21^st, 1892 –  June 1^st, 1971

Reference:

Mike Wallace interview with Reinhold Niebuhr, April 27^th, 1958

The Irony of American History by Reinhold Niebuhr, pub. 1952

An American Conscience: The Reinhold Niebuhr Story by Martin Doblmeier, 2017

In May 2001 I attended a conference on trans-generational trauma, truth and reconciliation. People travelled to Germany from all over the world: the United States, China, Argentina, Serbia, Albania, Israel, Palestine and Lebanon.

The fact that the event took place in the Bavarian city of Wuerzburg was not a coincidence. In March 1945 the Royal Air Force dropped 927 tons of explosive and incendiary bombs on Wuerzburg, killing 4,500 people and destroying 85% of the medieval city.

On the third and final day of the conference, I signed up to a talk given by Martin Bormann Jr.

I had no idea what to expect. The room I entered was smaller than I had imagined it would be and not every seat was taken. Bormann’s talk was in German and, unusually, no English translation was provided.

For the first 45 minutes I felt as though I was in a high school history class. I listened to the seventy year-old man plough through a story he must have recounted a hundred times. Physically imposing, with a sonorous voice, his delivery was stilted and dull. I was interested, not in the fall of the Third Reich, but in how the son of Martin Bormann, Hitler’s private secretary, had navigated his life and profoundly difficult fate.

“I once asked my father” he said “What exactly is National Socialism?, to which he replied ‘National Socialism is the will of the Fuehrer.’”

In April 1945 the Nazi academy in the Austrian Alps, where Bormann Jr. was a pupil, closed and “we were told to find our own way home”. The fifteen year-old changed his name to Bergmann and found refuge on a farm where, for two years, he lived with a devout Catholic family.

“Only then did I learn what National Socialism really was” he explained. “Following the release of Belsen, I saw the first pictures in a Salzburg newspaper. I read about the Nuremberg Trials and I saw my father’s name on the list of war criminals.

“How could my father, who I had always experienced as a kind and gentle man, have done these terrible things?”

There was silence in the room. Bormann had made it clear at the beginning of his talk that no questions were off limits.

Still, no one spoke.

He continued. “I asked my foster father What exactly is Catholicism?. He sent me to mass and he told the priest my real name. I read in the bible about deathbed confessions and this gave me hope for my father. I was received into the Catholic Church in May 1946.”

Of Bormann’s nine siblings, all but one converted to Catholicism.

At the age of 28 he was ordained and sent to the newly independent Congo as a missionary. Following a serious car accident in 1969, he was cared for by a Catholic nun.

In 1971 they both renounced their vows and were married.

Bormann subsequently taught theology until his retirement in 1992.

The lecture ended and the room went quiet. I could sense the atmosphere shift. After what seemed like a long time, a man spoke:

“Do you judge your father for what he did?” he asked.

“I don’t judge my father. I leave that to God” Bormann replied. “His political opinions have nothing to do with me. My father as a father was a role model to me. My father as a politician, however, was not.”

“How did you learn to balance these two viewpoints?” another asked.

“My conversion to Catholicism was a significant factor. I learned about forgiveness and the importance of not judging others. It is possible that what my father did at the time was something he felt was right. In hindsight of course it was wrong. We each have different roles. I am a son, a brother, a husband and a teacher.”

I asked him whether he had any children of his own. He replied that his wife was two years older than him and, by the time they got married, it was too late to start a family.

“Why do you think your father was so submissive to Hitler?” a woman asked.

“My father’s father died when he was three years old. He was raised in very modest circumstances by an extremely religious and authoritarian stepfather. In Hitler he found a father-figure as well as a powerful position in society.”

The man sitting next to me spoke.

“How was it possible to know nothing of the atrocities that were being committed around you?”

“Media was very unsophisticated back then.” Bormann explained. “There were no foreign newspapers and German radio was controlled by the Reichstag. We knew about the work camps but we didn’t know that the leaders of those camps were SS officers.”

A couple of months earlier, Bormann had been to Auschwitz. “I walked in the March of the Living alongside Jewish people from across the world” he told us. “I gathered with Israeli students in reconstructed gas chambers and took part in a ceremony of mourning. I was even presented with a peace offering. It was the first time in my life that I had been thanked by Jews” he reflected, somewhat awkwardly.

Recently I came across my notes and an audio tape of the talk. As I listened to the recording again, I thought about how theology had separated the son from the evil that defined his father. It had clearly offered him, his siblings and his mother a place of refuge. I wondered though whether it had also separated him from experiencing the pain, the grief and the rage of losing a man he loved as a father.

I have struggled to translate the title of Bormann’s talk Leben gegen Schatten. Is it ‘Life against the Shadows’ or is it ‘Living in opposition to the Shadow’. The words are ambiguous. I can’t decide which is correct.

I was curious to know whether Bormann was still alive and I put his name into a search engine. In 2011 a former pupil at a boarding school, where he was a priest and teacher in the 1960s, had accused him of rape. Other boys later came forward to report cases of physical violence against them.

Bormann denied any wrongdoing. His early onset dementia resulted in the case against him being dropped. The Catholic Church later provided compensation to the man who came forward to say that he had been raped.

As Ernest Hemingway once said “Being against evil doesn’t make you good. Tonight I was against it and then I was evil myself. I could feel it coming just like a tide ….”

Martin Adolf Bormann Jr. died in 2013 at the age of 82. In those final years, did he reflect on his own rightdoing and wrongdoing ? As he lay on his deathbed, 68 years after the suicide of his father, whose name he so faithfully carried through his life, was he accepting of the judgment he imagined might be his due?

“An act is evil if the individual, at the time of the act itself, considers what he is doing to be evil and does it anyway. Or if he considers an act to be good and doesn’t do it – this too can be considered evil. It is, however, impossible to make a definitive judgment on the state of conscience of an individual.”

Leben gegen Schatten by Martin Bormann Jr. pub. 1996

Reference: Islands in the Stream by Ernest Hemingway, pub. 1970

It was my mother who introduced me to the thrill of abandoned buildings. Her preference was for large houses with glamorous histories, like Encombe, for example, which was a mile from where we lived in Folkestone. Following several landslides in the 1950s, the house became uninhabitable.

Mum would instruct dad to detour into the hills above Sandgate so she (and later I) could determine how the former villa was faring and how much more of the central staircase had collapsed since our last visit.

Dad always stayed in the car. He warned my mother that she was breaking and entering, thereby risking arrest. Later his concerns focussed on our physical safety: what if we were hit, even killed, by falling plaster and brickwork?.

But the magic of Encombe, an Italianate villa with arched loggias and uninterrupted views across the English Channel, proved too compelling to resist.

It finally burned to the ground in 1978.

Last month, on a family holiday in the Ticino, I was delighted to discover that the Grand Hotel Locarno, which opened in 1876 and closed in 2005, was directly opposite where we were staying. The pink neoclassical building, which lies in extensive gardens and overlooks Lago Maggiore, hosted the Peace Conference of Locarno in 1925. Renovation work is underway and the hotel will reopen in 2027.

I took my chances at the end of the day – after the construction workers had left and before the gates were locked for the night – to wander around the hotel’s former wine cellars; all dripping arches, stone steps and wrought-iron balustrades.

The Grand Hotel is famous for its murano glass chandelier, the largest of its kind in Europe. Astonishingly, when the hotel closed twenty years ago, the chandelier was left behind. An online news clip from 2024 shows a group of lab-coated, hard-hatted experts with clip boards, carefully dismantling the undisturbed work of art, piece by glass piece, to be sent away and restored.

It is this aspect of Switzerland’s abandoned hotels that I find most baffling. Why are there no looters and scavengers? Where are the souvenir hunters? In England empty buildings are quickly stripped of anything of value, including the lead and tiles on the roof. A priceless murano chandelier would have disappeared before the heat in the walls had had a chance to escape.

A remarkable example of a sleeping beauty is the Royal Park Hotel Bellevue in Kandersteg in the Bernese Oberland. Built in 1905, it featured as the smallest hotel in the directory of ‘Small Luxury Hotels of the World’. I first noticed the chalet-style building during a weeklong visit to Kandersteg in 2018. The hotel sign was overgrown and the parking lot was empty, which struck me as unusual for the month of August. There were no barriers, no ‘Keep Out’ signs and none of the windows were boarded up. No harm in trying the front door, then.

My husband pointed out that the Swiss arrested people for misdemeanours less serious than trespassing. I knew he was right, but I couldn’t help myself and I promised him I wouldn’t go upstairs.

By the pool, which has uninterrupted mountain views, stood a row of white loungers and greek urns. The water was brown. Dead leaves lay scattered on the deck. The staircase to the upper floors looked safe but a lack of electricity in the building and my promise to Dan kept me from climbing the stairs to the bedrooms.

In 2011, the Royal Park Hotel Bellevue closed its doors citing a decline in the number of visitors. The building lay empty for several years and was then bought by Daniel Filliger, an architect from Spiez.

I asked a restaurant owner in the village what plans there were for the hotel. None, he replied. The Royal Park, along with 164 other buildings in Kandersteg, lies in the direct path of the Spitzer Stein, an unstable rock formation that risks burying the village in 18 million cubic meters of rock and stone. As a result of global warming the permafrost is constantly expanding and contracting inside the broken rock, creating additional flood risks.

There are weekly reports on the state of the Spitzer Stein. During the summer months it can move up to 50 cms a day. The owners of buildings that fall within the so-called red zone may not extend, renovate or alter their properties in any way. For a village that relies almost entirely on tourism, this restriction carries heavy consequences.

In February 2025, Daniel Filliger gave permission for freelance photographer Thomas Hodel to spend a day inside the hotel.* (see link below)

The building has lain empty for almost 15 years and yet the whole place is intact, as if new guests are expected at any moment. At Reception a wooden cabinet holds old-style room keys. Only three of the 31 are missing. In the dining room lies tarnished silver cutlery and behind the bar, sit half-empty bottles of whisky and Armagnac. In the laundry room there are sheets, waiting to be washed. The rooms are full of French and Italian-style furniture, chandeliers, paintings and satin bed covers, stretched immaculately across gilded bed frames.

What is to become of it all?

I suppose the people of Kandersteg have more pressing concerns than worrying about the contents of an old hotel. It seems wasteful though. Clearly none of the objects are considered to be of value to their owners, current or previous. No sale or auction is planned and you can’t just wander in and pocket an old room key because, well, that would be stealing.

Switzerland’s most famous sleeping beauty is the Hotel Belvedere. It sits on a hairpin bend on the Furka Pass and featured in the James Bond film Goldfinger.

In 1964 the Belvedere stood right at the edge of the glacier and visitors came from far and wide to see the ice fields from their bedroom windows. As a result of rising temperatures, however, the glacier has retreated so far uphill that it can no longer be seen from the hotel. Up to five acres of the Rhone glacier are now covered in UV-resistant thermal blankets in an attempt to slow the ice melt.

Local residents say the practice is working, but, it’s too late for the Belvedere, which closed its doors in 2015.

*https://www.bernerzeitung.ch/kandersteg-ein-blick-in-das-verlassene-fuenfsternehotel-584102481649

It’s the most wonderful time of the year. It’s mince pie season …

It took me a while to convert my Swiss-raised daughters to the thick sweet gloop of candied fruit in a pastry case, but, by the time they were in their early teens, we were a dedicated trio of enthusiasts.

I once carried six boxes of mince pies back to Switzerland to share with my class of thirteen year-olds at the Steiner School. They were not only revolted but baffled that English people would choose to eat something so very strange at Christmas time.

In our family there used to be an unwritten rule that no ‘mint spies’ (as Lucy called them) could be eaten before December 1^st. This served to make the first ‘spy’ a much anticipated event and added to its overall deliciousness. Last year, however, we broke the tradition, having agreed that mince pie season is brief and we needed to ‘seize the day’.

In recent years we have all three been in collaborative pursuit of the best pie money can buy. Personally, I am not a fan of the fully-lidded version – too much pastry and no opportunity to examine the filling. Although I’m up for a little variation – a new spice, extra zest, some crushed nuts – I avoid contrived flavours like chocolate and orange, salted caramel or, this year’s outlandish deep-fried mince pie.

Our straw poll produced a clear winner – Prêt a Manger.

The Prêt piecrust is buttery and rich and sits in a brown waxed paper cup. I imagine a Victorian kitchen somewhere full of bonnets and aprons and silver spoons measuring candied goop into pastry cases. The signature star on the top always looks a little bent out of shape, as if a bunch of pre-school children with cookie cutters had punched them out.  Then there’s the snow shower of powder sugar that makes the Prêt spy so unique.

On Tuesday morning I went into the Epsom branch of Prêt in search of our first mince pies of the year.

I could see only four in the cabinet.

‘No worries’, said the friendly barista, ‘I have more’.

He pulled down a cardboard box from a high shelf and removed several large plastic trays of bald-looking pies.

‘How many do you want?’ he enquired.

‘But, where’s the snow?’ I mumbled.

‘No worries’, he said again, plunging a sieve into a large plastic bag of powder sugar and sprinkling it … rather carelessly I thought … over the mince pies.

I can report that they are as delicious as they ever were and I was able to share them, fresh out of their plastic trays and recently dusted, with Polly and Lucy that same afternoon.

The Bernese village of Adelboden sits on a terrace at the end of a long valley. It is surrounded on three sides by mountains and overlooks a deep gorge. For more than 600 years the only way in and out of the village was over the mountains. Life was hard, people were poor and by 1900 the population was in decline.

In 1902 Adelboden had a stroke of great good fortune when Henry Lunn, a Methodist minister from Lincolnshire, arrived in the village. Lunn had made several visits to Grindelwald as part of the annual English church leaders’ conference and, in the winter of 1902/03, he brought 400 visitors to Adelboden.

He subsequently founded the Alpine Ski Club, which marked the beginning of the British trend to combine health with winter sports.

The Swiss of course didn’t need an Englishman to teach them how to ski – they used their skiis all the time in order to travel from A to B. However, the concept of climbing a mountain and skiing down it, purely for amusement, was not something that had occurred to them.

Twenty years later, in the neighbouring village of Muerren, Henry Lunn’s son, Arnold organised the first downhill slalom race and, in 1931, the first world championships. He was knighted for his services to British skiing and Anglo-Swiss relations.

Early visitors to the Swiss Alps were predominantly members of the British aristocracy with time on their hands and money in their pockets. As downhill skiing grew in popularity, the well-to-do guests needed appropriate accommodation and this prompted the construction of what are today known as the Belle Epoque hotels.

The Nevada Palace in Adelboden was built by the Richert brothers in 1911 for CHF 200,000 and advertised itself as “The Glorious Winter-Beauty. The Fountain of Eternal Youth”. The seven-storey hotel boasted a ‘resort doctor’ and an outdoor swimming pool, designed to offer guests a Mediterranean experience (sand was imported from Marseille) alongside magnificent mountain views. During the winter, outdoor areas were transformed into skating rinks.

In the mid 1930s my mother and her friends went skiing in Adelboden on day trips from their hometown in Biel. My parents later moved to the village for a winter season with the intention of offering combined courses in English and skiing. Unfortunately the only applicant was an English lord whose interest lay in skiing rather than learning English.

I was christened in the 14^th century church and, every year until I left home, my family spent Christmas in Adelboden.

The outbreak of WWII ended the era of the grand hotels and visitors disappeared practically overnight. In 1943 the government announced that all foreign troops, captured on Swiss soil, were to be interned.  Adelboden served as the first internment facility and, over the next two years, more than five hundred US airmen were sent to live at the Nevada Palace.

Apart from a night-time curfew, the Americans were free to walk the hillsides, attend church services and visit neighbouring villages. The men installed a woodworking shop and a dark room in the cellars of the Palace. They formed their own ice hockey team, played baseball, took up skiing and learnt German. Every morning they met for coffee at the Alpenrose cafe where they charmed the Adelbodener women by calling them ‘Sweetie’ and ‘Darling’.

As serving members of the US government, the men continued to receive military pay which, much to the delight of local shopkeepers, they spent on watches and sports equipment. Markus Klopfenstein sold so many cameras to the Americans that his supplier, Zeiss suspected he was trading in the black market and sent a representative to investigate.

Ernst Oester of Oester Sport recalled that the young American GIs declined to use his changing rooms, preferring to strip down to their underwear in the shop. “They wore jockeys, which were unknown in Switzerland at the time and they stood there, bare-chested and hairy-legged. It was too much for one farmer’s wife who was so shocked by what she saw that she walked backwards out of the shop.”

The internees formed a swing band and invited the Adelbodners to dances in the Palace ballroom. At Christmas they arranged a screening of Snow White and the Seven Dwarves for the children. Nobody in Adelboden had ever seen a motion picture before; neither had they tasted chewing gum or used a biro. With the aid of dictionaries, love affairs blossomed and some of the local girls married airmen. In 1946, young women like Irma McLaughlin and Doris Scott followed their husbands to America in what came to be known as the ‘Bride Ships’.

The Nevada Palace never fully regained its former glory. WWII bankrupted the Richert  brothers. Henry died and Jacques ended his days as a waiter in an Interlaken cafe.

In 1996 a major fire destroyed the hotel’s upper floors. Charred and abandoned, it was finally torn down in 2001. There was talk of building a family hotel, in keeping with the character of the village. Instead the land was sold to The Pearl of Kuwait Real Estate Group, which went bankrupt a few years later.

The Nevada Palace Hotel has gone but the views across the valley, to the Engstligenalp and the Wildstrubel, are still there, just as they were in the 13^th century when the first settlers arrived.

Reference:

American internees in Adelboden, Schweizer Radio und Fernsehen (SRF Dok)1991

Adelboden, Berner Oberland Ed. Klopfenstein, 1992

Bieler Tagblatt, ‘Geblieben sind Ruinen’, August 2001